Do we?

With the help of Pinterest, the interwebs, and more wedding magazines than I would care to admit to owning, I have had a lot of fun over the past few months picking out wedding details I want to replicate or gathering inspiration for reception decor. Because the reception is longer, more open to creativity, and in many ways easier, we have (until today!) neglected to do a lot of planning of the ceremony itself.

Because we opted to have a secular ceremony officiated by a friend, the order, wording, and content of the ceremony is completely up to us. The freedom to choose anything is mostly overwhelming, though a bit cool as well. I have spent the better part of today gathering snippets of ceremonies past from online and a book I bought a few months ago called "The Wedding Ceremony Planner." Along with a healthy dose of bothering Vader on seemingly inconsequential details, it's coming along nicely! We will have a reading by our sisters, a prayer, and a song from three bridesmaids and a groomsman. We will do some traditional stuff, like a welcome, vows, and rings, though in our own unique style. I am incredibly excited that we settled on a format for our vows, so I can put my I'm-gonna-write-a-stupid-poem fears to rest. But-I'm left with one question.

WHERE THE HELL DO WE SAY I DO?

We are not doing traditional vows, but are open to considering a somewhat traditional ring exchange. Only, in all my searching, I can't figure out where people usually say I do! Nor can I remember the words in weddings we have recently attended. Can anybody help me out? Can it be featured during the ring part of the ceremony?