Pictures!

I was totally thrilled (and completely overwhelmed) when we received our pictures late last week. There are a ton, and I'm still discovering new ones as I page through to upload online. I've put many of the group shots with the wedding party and preparations up on Facebook, but I thought the family photos might be better received via blog. Don't worry - there'll be some more pictures put up here, too!

Our lovely families:

I really like how symmetric this picture is

A Ladner family tradition - they thought it wouldn't happen in a wedding dress!

At each picture = 1000 words, consider this my most prolific blog post!

Turns out there isn't that much in a name - the name change process

Three-ish weeks after the wedding, I finally got a day where I could head to the Federal building and apply to change my name at the Social Security office. It was the first time I can remember that I forgot my phone at home, which was very unfortunate, since I could have caught up on some serious Facebook stalking during my hour and a half wait for my four minutes of fame. A week later my new social security card showed up in the mail with my new name, Sarah N. Ladner Apollo. (Vader. Whatever. If you're still reading you know who we are.)

I'm personally excited to have such a long name - think of the boxes I can use up on those by-character forms! I headed to the RMV with my new card and applied for my new license, which required only a half hour wait (hooray!), but where I discovered that my new real name wouldn't be able to be put on my license. Thankfully the RMV lady convinced me that Ladner-Apollo would look less dumb on my license than LadnerApollo, despite some initial hesitation on my part, so I now sort of have two identities. This doesn't seem to alarm anybody of the government sort, which begs the question: what the hell is in a name, after all?

During the following week I walked around waiting to be identity-thefted prepared for the name change process with banks, school, loan offices, etc. with marriage documents in hand. I mostly learned that having access to a photocopier is terrifically helpful in the process, as is only having accounts based in the area you live. Of course, neither is true, so the process took a bit longer. Most people were OK with the two names, but my name will be hyphenated in some places due to logistical necessities. Five weeks after the wedding I think I'm just about done changing my name. Whew! The biggest mystery - today I realized that Google has changed my name on my e-mail account, without my doing anything to change it. From whom do you think they get their information?

To future name-changers: there is no rhyme or reason in what people will require to change your name. Some want a marriage certificate copy, some want every document you can find, and some are happy with a phone call. Sadly, the ones who put you on hold the longest are never the ones who just need a phone call.

We hear the wedding photos should be done by this week, so stay tuned for pictures!

Why everybody needs a photobooth

In the very early days of our engagement, I was seeing renting a photobooth as an option in a lot of wedding magazines. Apparently, it was all the rage in weddings a couple of years ago, but I guess the trend hasn't made it to Maine very often. Always drawn to the booths in malls or on boardwalks, it quickly became something that we absolutely needed at the wedding.

When I was searching for a photobooth I came across a few different options, ranging from photographers setting up makeshift photobooth backdrops to customized booths that cost thousands of dollars. I wanted our photographer freed up for formal and informal shots during the reception, so the sort of DIY option was out. I also didn't want to spend a significant portion of the budget on silly pictures with props. Enter Justin, who owns Portland Photo Booth Company. I booked him over e-mail a year or so out, connected with him a couple of times before the wedding to double check set-up time and to tweak the time people would be liquored up enough for silly poses, and he showed up and was perfect the day of the wedding.

We were able to set the booth up in its own room in the Portland Club, which I would highly recommend, as there was a line for the booth all night. Justin brought boxes of hilarious props - things to wear, things to hold, things to beat each other with in the booth. After four poses the booth spit out two sets of photobooth strips - one for you to keep and one to paste into a scrapbook that Vader and I now have to remember the wedding.

We rented the photobooth for two hours - less than half of the reception, but perfectly timed for guests (and wedding party members!) who were worn out from dancing or looking to catch up with old friends after dinner. I think the open bar probably helped fuel a few of the costume selections, but our goofy guests likely would have gotten along fine in the booth regardless.

Speaking of goofy guests - the photos are all up, in individual shots or photobooth strips, for your downloading pleasure. There are several on Justin's Facebook page (Like them and tag away!), and all can be found at http://portlandphotoboothco.zenfolio.com/apollo. Enjoy!

Here's a gem of our "happy couple" session in the booth:

Married Life

Hey everybody - we're finally married! So far married life is quite a bit like engaged life, except I keep referring to Vader as my fi-husband because I remember halfway through the word "fiance". I'm quite pleased to be done with fiance, may I add, as it's a pretty annoying word to say.

As pictures trickle in from folks I'll recap some of my favorite parts of the wedding process, but I thought I'd start with a general overview of how things went.

Event #1: Rental house adventure with our far flung friends. It was great spending time with friends we don't see enough, relaxing on the beach, playing in the arcade of OOB, and engaging in plenty of shenanigans of all sorts. I would highly recommend something similar to anybody who can - I definitely would have filled the week before the wedding with last minute errands or projects, and having a hard deadline to only have fun was great for my own relaxation. It also made the lead-up to the wedding all the more fun, and helped us feel like we really got to spend quality time with friends who made significant treks to attend our wedding.

Event #2: Rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. Vader's and my friends have never been so prompt in their lives - several showed up during the "chat with event staff and set things up for the wedding" phase, and quickly began to ask what they could do. There was a lot I needed to figure out and place myself, and in hindsight I perhaps could have drawn up assignments for tasks, but that was too much organization in the moment. I sent most of the party to relax in the Portland Club while myself, my family, Vader's family, and a few terrifically helpful friends scattered the MANY different components I had brought artfully about the room. Once set-up was complete we rehearsed, which was quite painless and helpful for an organized wedding day. Mostly we worked out the kinks of having a 21-person wedding party (including us and our officiant) and fitting us into the space. Afterwards, we trekked to the White Cap Grille in the Old Port for some delicious dinner hosted by my parents. We awkwardly figured out how to try and blend different sides of family and friends while gorging ourselves on sliders, chips, and chicken, and then headed back to the house to get all packed up.

Event #3: Wedding! The day started EARLY for us girls, with a 7 a.m. wake-up call that led into solid hairstyling at the hotel until 2 p.m. Patty Thomas of Hair and Company from Norway, Me did a fabulous job with short, long, thick, and thin hair alike. When most of the hair was done the girls and parents went off to get dressed, and Patty gussied me up before Mom (with some help from Jean, our fabulous photographer of Hanington Photography based in Lincoln, ME who was happy to help with anything else she could do that day) helped me into my dress and veil. Once I was dressed [hint for future brides: getting dressed and staying dressed all night is a multi-person event. Just accept it.] we took some photos in a park across the street from the hotel and I learned why I don't wear heels in grass. The hotel shuttle guy got us to the Portland Club, and Vader and I had a sweet first look that resulted in this beauty:

courtesy of Hanington Photography

We took some pictures outside with the wedding party, to the delight of passers-by who shared their congratulations through honks, and soon it was time to get the show on the road. The ceremony was short and sweet, with lots of personal touches and no uneventful trips (there was one when reentering after family photos). Afterwards, we took family photos outside, and then mingled more than we've collectively mingled in our lives. The Black Tie Company (our caterer, and event space manager) was fabulous, with delicious food and drinks during cocktail hour, attentive service to making sure things flowed nicely throughout the evening, and dedication to the client. When Bridesmaid Cupcake ate a peanut five minutes in, Black Tie sent somebody out in search of Benadryl and a crisis was averted. 

Cocktail hour was followed by our introduction to the reception and dinner and the party got underway. The food was great, the candy bar a huge hit, and our DJ (Joe Dionne, of Dionne Entertainment) did a terrific job of keeping the mood light while we were eating and keeping everybody on the dance floor later in the evening. During breaks on the dance floor, Vader and I exercised bride and groom rights to cut the line that was there all night for the photobooth, rented from the Portland Photobooth Company. We've got several pages of silly photo strips from our family and friends that we'll be sure to use to blackmail commemorate our wedding. 

By the end of the reception several people had petered out, but we still had a crowd ready to head out on an Old Port pub crawl with us to keep celebrating. I changed into a lighter dress, Vader stayed classy in his tux, and we were off to Novare Res with 20ish friends to close down the bar. We heard they closed the bar, anyway, since after about six sips of beer Vader and I were ready to call an end to a long and eventful day. We traipsed to our honeymoon suite, unwound a bit, and slept better than either of us had for over a week. 

I'll include details, thoughts, and reviews of the days after the wedding in a later post, but frankly this post is long enough. I will also get more into detail about the ceremony and reception when there are pictures to accompany them. Thank you to everybody who helped us celebrate at the wedding or from afar through the blog!

p.s. If anybody is planning a wedding, or knows somebody who is, I have an absurd amount of wedding magazines taking up space in my closet from 2010 to now. Let me know if you'd like to offer them a good home!

Too many crafts, no time for blogging

Hi everybody - we're nine days out! As a result, I don't have the time to blog about the projects I'm still finishing up. I promise I'll get caught up sometime in the next few weeks, if there are any blog hangers-on after the wedding.

In the meantime, they say a picture's worth a thousand words, and this is a picture made up of pictures, so this is basically a million word blog post. Here's the seating chart I've worked on tirelessly for the last two days. Each piece has a name on it, and when you pull yours off there's a table number on the back and a copy of the picture piece behind it. I may not recommend this project to anyone again, ever, because it's a giant pain. But enjoy!

My "I'm tired" face. Also, messy apartment = the result of much crafting. 

Guests

When we first started planning the wedding, we ballpark-ed 120 as a guest number. When we started writing down names and asking family, that number kept going up, but we were hopeful that people might be busy this summer and our number might stay somewhat true to our 120 estimate (and the quoted price for that number - our true motivation). Standard wedding knowledge (read: a number I found on The Knot) says you can expect about 20% of invitees will send regrets. We sent out 156 invitations, and 31 folks declined. Go ahead, grab the calculator. With a 19.87% decline rate, our wedding is pretty darn average! We are happy with the final numbers, and look forward to celebrating with close family and friends without feeling overwhelmed by the number of people.

In finalizing the guest list, I did not anticipate losing any guests, but to our great sadness we lost my grandfather a week and a half ago. I will be forever thankful that I trekked to Maine two weeks ago, despite a lot going on in Boston that weekend, to spend time with my family, accomplish plenty of wedding tasks,  and celebrate my grandparents' 60th anniversary. We ate, laughed, and ate some more in true Baker fashion and, in hindsight, celebrated him out with style. I'm still trying to think of an appropriate way to memorialize my grandfather at the wedding. Grandpa had several thoughts about the wedding, none of which guests will see. We will not elope to save money (though, realistically, it might have been a good idea for the bank account!), there will not be a porta-potty in the middle of the dance floor, and we will not be married by a minister preaching fire and brimstone. We will, however, dance up a storm, have cocktails at 3, and "paint the town red" after the reception. We're less than three weeks out now, and we absolutely can not wait!

Whoa!

ONE MONTH from today we're FINALLY getting married!

And I only have to: write our vows, wrap gifts, finish getting gifts (clearly this list is not in order), decorate vases, paint bottles, finish beer and seal it, make flowers, finish the banner, order some more labels, try on my dress, do the seating chart, finish bothering folks for RSVPs, write thank you notes, create schedules for us and friends, pick up bridesmaid dresses, finish decorations, count candles and holders, make signs, frame photos, create the escort card display, get a marriage license, and finish paying people! Totes doable.

On a totally unrelated note, if anybody comes over for dinner in the next month, bring some scissors and nice handwriting!

Name decision!

Though I've mused on the topic in the blog before, I have made very few decisions about my name up until now. However, it occurred to me that it's getting late in the game to not have a plan as I'll be applying for a marriage license soon. (Really, it hit when I didn't know how to fill in the box on the DJ's form that says "How do you want to be introduced?")

As previously stated, my name rocks. It's full of unique names that may die with me if I change them, and my initials are SNL. The least unique part is my first name, but that's what I'm known as at work, so changing that is out. Vader's name also rocks. And, I want our family to have a collective name where I don't feel like I'm losing part of me. So....

After we're married, I'll be Sarah Nevers Ladner Apollo. Both Ladner and Apollo will be last names*, no hyphen, and if I sign up for a conference or something I'll be "Sarah Ladner Apollo." When people refer to Vader and I, we'll be "The Apollos". Together, we're a united front. Alone, I'm still the me I've always been with a new addition. What do you think?

*When I first mentioned this possibility to Vader, his response was "How will you pronounce that?" He thought I meant literally combine the two names and become Sarah Ladnerapollo. This still makes me laugh.

Checking things off

935 days into our engagement (I cheated and used an online date calculator...shh) there are more than a few projects for the wedding that have been on our radar for a LONG time, but it has never seemed crucial that they happen soon. Now only 42 days from the wedding, it's high time to get things done! So, here are the things we'll finally check off this weekend:

1.) Clear out the Amazon wish list [this has been a year in coming, and (to quote a master) "Boyzo," it feels good to have this done!]

2.) Use up my third Vistaprint Groupon of the wedding planning process. Jury is still out on whether we'll need another.

3.) Finalize the reception space layout with the Black Tie Co. people.

4.) Harrass family and friends as the RSVP deadline encroaches (hint, hint...)

5.) Move closer to having the beer favors ready - nothing like brewing in 90 degree heat!

6.) Possess everything necessary for the candy buffet!

7.) Buy gifts for the little people in the wedding party.

8.) Write vows!

In addition, I've spent this afternoon doing all sorts of silly tasks like designing beer labels, wrapping ribbon around vases, and getting so engrossed in wedding details that I forgot about the laundry. Thankfully, nobody in their right mind wants to hang out in a humid laundry room when it's 95 degrees out.

A special thank you to Mom, who has been putting together rehearsal dinner options and booked a location this afternoon! It sounds like great food, a convenient space, will be a wonderfully relaxing evening before the wedding, AND allows me to check off multiple to dos on the checklist I've been using as we count down!

All in all a productive wedding-planning day, with a lot more to get done tomorrow. Stay cool, New England. And others, I suppose :)

Invited!

Since I've gotten an online RSVP from the other side of the country, I'm going to assume all the invitations are out by now. In the end, I'm quite happy with them. I'm happy I didn't decide to make them myself, which definitely would have been more expensive and probably messier. I'm happy they came in kits so the pieces were already cut to line up. I'm happy we were able to make them unique, with only a bit of pain (see the last post). And, most of all, I'm happy they're done!

Here's how we started: On a whim, Mom and I checked out the invitations kit selection at Wal-Mart last summer. We found these, and I came around to liking them, both for their design and their $20 for 25 invitations price. The store had 3, we needed 6, so we made a quick trip to a store further away to round out the supply. Straight out of the box, they were black and white damask invitations, with plain black and white insert cards that fit into a black pocketfold with black and white belly band.

After then ignoring the invitations for about eight months, I started thinking about how to personalize the invitations and add some pink. Several samples of pink paper later and a Michael's trip to match ribbon color, we had pink matting paper for the main part of the invitation and ribbon to wrap around the belly band. Vader happened to buy me a stamp pad in the perfect shade of pink last year for my birthday, so I also picked up some little heart stamps to add pink to the information cards enclosed.

A bit more ignoring, and then it was time to start thinking about actually putting invitations together. By this point we were thinking harder about each wedding cost, and we realized that everybody would not need an extra stamp for an RSVP card. We decided to split the reply cards into either online RSVP directions or a physical card to mail in, and created all the pieces with templates that came with the kit. We had Grassroots Graphics in Norway, ME print up all the insert pieces, and they looked great! Meanwhile, my grandmother offered up her beautiful handwriting skills for addressing the envelopes, and we were happy to outsource that task.

All the pieces were ready in the days following my shower, and between MOH Moxie, Mom, me, and the chocolate doughnut that kept Ringbearer Melmo entertained during the process, we were able to mat the main invitations, attach the matting to the pocketfolds, stamp the insert cards, and postage stamp the reply cards. At this point, they looked like this:

After gathering some more adhesive, we finished up the inside. Here's a shot of each invitation set showing off the pink stamps inside: 

Invitations for folks who we think would like a traditional, mail-in RSVP card

Invitations for folks who we think can and will  reply via Internet on our wedding website

Once back in Boston, we got to adding the belly bands, ribbon, and wax seals which I described in detail in my last post. This past weekend while in Maine for Mother's Day, my parents, Vader and I assembly-lined the stuffing, stamping, and sealing process and hit the post office an hour before they closed to get everything mailed. By this point, I had read enough online that square envelopes are more expensive. What I didn't realize was that we also had picked large enough square invitations that we had to attach "large envelope" postage, making them more expensive to mail. The invitations came out to be a whopping $1.12 per invitation to mail (future brides: squares are certainly cool, but pricey!), so it was slightly less of the economical option I thought they were, but I was happy to stamp them and hand them over to the USPS. And, since people are commenting on the wax seals upon receiving them, they must have stayed intact!

Wax seals: cool looking, but a giant pain

When we were trying to figure out how to personalize our invitations (more than the organization suggested in the boxed set), Vader suggested we wax seal them closed. It sounded fun and classy, so after a long deliberation we ended up ordering a stamp with our "monogram" off Etsy and some wax. When we finally had both we enjoyed practicing by sealing random junk mail until we had it down. We then moved onto sealing our invitations, where we learned why wax sealing has become a thing of the past. It's messy, it hurts, it's temperamental, and no seal looks the same. We're choosing to see that as lending a unique, handmade touch to each invitation. Here's a visual of the process:

The process: light wick, dribble wax in approximation of a circle, stamp. It turns out targeted dribbling is hard to do well.

Vader's battle wound (the white blob is a blister) - while your thumb is burning there is nothing you can do about it, because it's covered in hot wax.

Sometimes while burning the wick catches fire, dropping bits of char into the wax.  Perhaps a wax  color other than white would be advisable for the future.

Sometimes when the wax is flaming or your finger is burning you flail wax all over the place. It is then hard to peel off.

Sometimes you're not paying perfect attention to the stamp you are working on, and  stick your fingers in the not-yet-cooled wax. Even more unique: invitations with our fingerprints!

It turns out the glue squares I was using to hold the ribbon closed melted from the heat of the wax. Oops.

After stamping a hundred invitations, I would only recommend this project to somebody with patience,  callused fingers, and plenty of extra wax paper. Or anybody who wants a fun challenge that looks so cool when done right. Like this: 

Yeah, it looks great. It's one of three in the entire bunch that look this good.

Candy, candy

In the very beginning of wedding planning, when finding pretty pictures was enough and I didn't have to worry about details or payments, I found myself bookmarking several photos of colorful candy buffets. Clearly, this was in the pre-Pinterest days. Since, I've added plenty of pins.

Candy buffets are a trifecta of wedding awesome: edible favors, fun sugary snacks for the after party, and bright, cheery colors that double as decorations. And, since it's our wedding, we get to pick the candy! No black licorice to be found!

As we developed the candy list from things we find delicious, things our friends and family find delicious, and general Maine-themed crowd pleasers, I started hunting on wedding forums for places to get different kinds of candies cheapest. At one point I had identified five different sites to order different varieties of candy from because they were pennies cheaper per pound - until you looked into shipping costs. Because candy may melt, break, get stuck together, etc. during shipping, companies charge an arm and a leg to pack candy specially with cooler packs and those stupid air pack pillows my cat likes to pop loudly in the middle of the night. No, thanks!

Instead, I turned to good ol' two-day shipping and Amazon prime. Amazon had most of the candy varieties we were interested in, and for less than most bulk candy sites. I assembled a wish list of approximately 20 varieties of candy last winter, planning to order as we got closer to the wedding.

Fast forward to two weeks ago when I was in Maine for some wedding errands. Mom suggested we take a look at BJ's prices for candy, and I readily agreed. Given our Amazon list, I was planning to spend $250 - $350 on candy, possibly more for specialty items. I intended to check BJ's prices against Amazon's in store using my phone and purchase the candy that was cheaper at BJ's. As it turns out - all of it was cheaper, by quite a bit. We ended up finding all but 5 of our chosen candy varieties, for about half of what I had planned on spending! We ordered the specialty candy online (candy buttons and Necco wafers are hardly the most sought-after items during April in Maine), and plan to finish the list up soon. This will put our total candy spending at  ~$180, which is terrifically under budget given how much candy we will have on the buffet!

Fear not, wedding cake haters, there'll be plenty of after-dinner sweets at the wedding! And my Dad will happily accept your unwanted cake.

Shower!

Boston is on its way back to normal AND Mom sent me the pictures from the shower, so without further ado...

Me and my carload of friends arrived at Maurice's for my bridal shower twenty minutes early, only to be told by my eight-year-old niece to "skedaddle" very emphatically. After dropping off our stuff we returned twenty five minutes later, and this time were welcomed inside. Mom made sure to get a picture of MOH Moxie dressing me in "shower gear..."

...before she took this shot, likely the most attractive shot my sister and I have taken together in years. Please excuse the glasses :) 

Not long after that, we were seated and munching on delicious platters of veggies, cheese and crackers, mini quiches, and assorted crustini. We laughed, ate, and caught up with everyone for a few minutes.

Then it was time for gift opening, during which Mom and Moxie had created a game for people to remain interested play along while they cheered on the breaking of ribbons, which apparently signifies impending children. The crowd got rowdy at the end as they closed in on some fabulous scratch tickets, hoping I would find rolling pins or dishcloths in my gift bags or pretending cake pans were coasters. Meanwhile, I was roasting to death in a leather chair while everybody watched me open presents. To liven things up (and cool down) I tried out the swag. I call this montage "I put on all of the things."

 

While I was ruining my family's hopes of fielding a football team with my future children by meticulously undoing each ribbon, a combination of Mom, Bridesmaid Comicon, and a longtime friend helped put together my "rehearsal bouquet." There was a long loop extending from one side, which in my silliness I determined made my options "ribbon necklace" or "ribbon Kentucky Derby hat." See below.

 

I got a lot of wonderful gifts, spurring a string of treats made and meals with friends since to enjoy our new things. After everything was opened it was time for cake. On the cake were flamingos WEARING FLIP-FLOPS. So cool. See? 

I cut the cake awkwardly, ate a piece with half a flamingo on it, and settled in for a lovely and rowdy evening with my whole family and college friends for a game of Cards Against Humanity. And I still haven't stopped making silly faces in pictures:

Next up: Mom helps save us $$$$ on candy!

A shower and a manhunt

I spent most of the last week in Maine, all starting with a wonderful shower thrown by Mom and MOH Moxie last weekend! Some lovely ladies, and one dapper groomsman, ate, laughed, and chatted with me and my family and friends while I awkwardly tried not to flash my grandmother as I opened gifts. There is an iconic picture of 5-year-old me who clearly hadn't learned to "sit like a lady" (read: legs splayed wide in a dress, thank God for thick tights) and it's a lesson I still struggle with.

I digress. The shower was delightful and people were extremely generous, but you'll have to wait for photographic evidence until Mom sends me some pictures. Spoiler alert: in them, I try on every gift I received that was even remotely wearable. Many of them at the same time.

After the shower Vader and  I stuck around in Maine for a few days to get wedding things done, and we're pretty thankful we did. The Boston marathon bombs went off about a mile from our apartment, and even now things are sealed off for the investigation with military police standing guard at cross streets that intersect Boylston St. We arrived yesterday morning, giving us enough time to check out the bombing area and get settled in before the current manhunt for the bombing suspect began overnight. As I am writing this, we're holed up in our apartment under orders from Boston PD to stay home until they locate the suspect at large. It's been quite a week for our city, and we are all looking forward to the end of the whole event.

containers

Yesterday, I got two boxes in the mail. TWO! I think I'll plan a wedding for the rest of my life so I get this much mail!

Ha! I do love getting mail, but also saving money.

Anyway, in the first box was the totally flipping cool part of my gifts for my bridesmaids, who are much too nosy for me to announce the contents. In the other box was a thousand bags. I found a ton of bags I think (thought?) will be great for the candy buffet for cheap online from a restaurant supply store. Here's what they look like:

the pint glass is included for size comparison

My thinking on the size of the bags, with much help from wedding sites and other bloggers, was that I wanted bags that were big enough they could hold a mini whoopie pie and some candy, but not bags large enough that the first twenty guests through the line with the munchies would clean out the candy supply. Now that I see them, I'm doubting the size. Does this bag look too small for 1/4 - 1/3 of a pound of candy and a mini whoopie pie? 

In other news, my shower is this weekend! I'm excited for a weekend in Maine with friends and family and food, followed by a week of much-needed vacation with some wedding crafting thrown in. 

Seriously. Are the bags too small?

A completed project!

Given how simple it looks it's a little embarrassing how long this took me, but here's my project of the night:

Our life in a nutshell. Legos, Mark Bittman, and a shelf full  of cocktail accoutrements

There will be something between Mr. and Mrs., but freehand drawing an ampersand or a heart seemed a little beyond my artistic skill, so I'll keep looking for a stencil along those lines.

Also, this banner (which will hang on our sweetheart table at the reception) announces my name decision so far: I'll be adding Apollo to my name in July, keeping all the rest of my current names as well. I still haven't decided whether I'll have two middle names or two non-hyphenated last names - but I still have three months!